You need to grieve the loss of the relationship – if you don’t you’ll find it even harder to move on.
This process might seem embarrassing but ultimately showing your emotions will help you grow emotionally.
Boyfriends and girlfriends have come and gone, but my friends with benefits have stood the test of time. That’s longer than I predict my first marriage will last.
And while I can’t imagine being with my Cuba date “for real”—I mean, he’s a low-key homeless anarchist who once took me on date to his Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous meeting; there are red flags—I still value our relationship immensely.
Often, the demise and disintegration of a romance is a clear sign to sever all ties from someone who, at one time, was the person you confided in, spent your days and shared virtually every intimate detail with.
To save on the boring details, after 18 months, we decided that we’d grown apart and would be better off as friends.
Initially it felt odd – mainly because, while the components were no longer there for a romantic partnership, there were still lingering feelings and we still cared about one another.
After a few short months apart, it felt easy to move into a friendship space and the dynamics have been fine ever since. I can see why this would appear alien to some but that doesn’t mean it’s an implausible scenario.
If you can genuinely forge a platonic friendship with an ex, meaning no complications or conflicts of interest, then I don’t see why not.