Deleting your profiles from these sites shouldn’t be a difficult time-consuming process, but some procedures are more complex than others.
Things are going well and I want to be her boyfriend, but I still notice her logging into the dating site where we met.
Doesn’t mean you don’t want to see her, just means you’re looking to trade up. You’ll wish her the best of luck in her search and you’ll both move on to greener pastures. There are two possible scenarios: 1) she reciprocates in kind, and you become her boyfriend, and 2) she backs away, and you move on. To sum up, the reason her profile is still up is basically one of the below: 1) She’s playing it cool and trying not to act needy. Better to get an answer now than to wait another two months to find out where you stand.
You have different needs, different goals, different perceptions – no reason for anyone to get hurt. And if you’re unsure of where you stand, the best solution is to bring this to the surface in a confident way. No need to have an uncomfortable “Why is your profile up after two months? She’s waiting for you to make a commitment to be a boyfriend. Currently, this female happens to be seeing someone and in the exact same position.
How can I get her to take her profile down without seeming too pushy?
Great question, Jason – one that affects everyone who dates online.